20 Things I would tell my 20-Year-Old Self

 “A voice for NFL wives, fiancees and girlfriends while connecting, inspiring, and empowering our audience. We desire to influence our community by changing the conversation.”  It’s refreshing to come across a mission statement like this in a world where people seem to connect more readily over superficial things and values.  LeShonda Martin created WAGS Redefined with the intent for it to be everything that her mission encompasses.  I feel like it’s only appropriate for my first blog post to thank LeShonda for creating a faith-based community for women to connect and also to share a real life example of a connection I made as a result of her efforts. I recently met @CieraLiguori through @NFLWags when we realized we were both in the LA area.  We met for coffee in Santa Monica the other day and spent three hours chatting all things “real.”  Ciera is just beginning the journey through her 20’s while this gal over here is savoring the last year of it :-) It got me thinking about this past decade of my life and some of the things I have learned…and am still continuing to learn.

  • I learned the phrase “Train your Eyes” recently…learn to look at challenges from a different perspective. Be grateful for the things that DON’T go your way…these are the moments you really grow and really get to know yourself.  
  • Time is valuable.  Don’t waste it on trivial things. Be more selfish with your time and give it to those that truly matter.
  • If you hate your job you need to find a new one. A career can take over your soul especially when you get comfortable with a paycheck.  Stop and make sure what you’re doing aligns with your God-given gifts & abilities.
  • You’ll be OK…whatever you're going through, no matter how hard it is, in time you will be OK.
  • Learn to love your body…flaws and all. Eliminate the word diet from your vocabulary. Everything in moderation and drink more water.
  • Learn the art of taking power naps.
  • Change is scary and uncomfortable. Just know that the first step is the hardest.
  • Don’t gossip.        
  • Be patient with your parents…they aren’t getting any younger.
  • Travel every opportunity you get! And do things that scare you. Mine included riding in a helicopter, and zip lining.)
  • Volunteer…anything that makes you think outside of yourself.
  • Read more!!! From blogs to books, make this part of your daily routine. (Currently reading: Purpose Driven Life)
  • There’s strength in vulnerability…there’s also a fine line between vulnerable and victim.
  • Spend time alone everyday.
  • BE KIND.