This WAG offers creative ways to maximize your off season.
It’s hard to describe it. The feeling a WAG gets in the pit of her stomach when her man goes down on the field. Normally he jumps right back up after a tackle. But sometimes, he doesn’t. Sometimes, he lies there a little longer than you know he should. The trainers and team doctors corral around him and…
Meet Nancy. We featured Nancy in our newest brand illustration holding her newborn baby and we are in love with how it turned out! This gorgeous Dallas-native and husband, Moises Hernandez, recently welcomed baby boy Aaron to the world. Nancy sat down with WR editors to give us the tea on her love story, experience with the fans, and life as a full time student and mom while hubby plays soccer in another country (Guatemala)! Read the exclusive interview after the break!
Training camp is hard for WAGs. I don’t think people truly understand why or how. In all honesty, I didn't really either until I had to live it. But here I am, three days in and all I can say is, IT SUCKS.
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Football fanatic families (say that 10 times fast) eat, sleep, and breath football...on purpose. My family does so by career-force, not by choice.
Here we are in week 4 of the regular season! Meaning, training camp is over and I’m no longer chasing a 2 year-old off of the field in the hot sun every time he sees his daddy.
Watching Sophia (my daughter) turn one is the most beautiful part about her birthday. She can hear out of both ears, see out of both eyes, she's walking, speaking languages I've never heard before, she likes Waffles and loves sweet potatoes.
Usually I can just sit down and start writing. The words just seem to flow but this time was different. I was nervous and anxious but I wasn't sure why. Despite knowing what I wanted to write about, I kept delaying the inevitable. Why wasn't it flowing? Why was I being so hesitant about writing this time? Was it because it was too personal or hitting a little too close to home? Or maybe I wasn't making it a priority. I decided "enough was enough" and I needed to get this out. I believe that if God puts something on your heart, you better listen. No need to miss blessings because of laziness. Throughout my journey in growing in God, I have tried to be a better person, making adjustments here and there just like we all do. Most of those changes didn't cause much of a fuss in my life and seemed easy— but then God challenged me. Why was it okay for me to grow in God but not others?
Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister. - Romans 14:13 NIV
We are all guilty of judging others. No matter how many church services we attend or holy communions we take, at some point in our lives we have judged someone else. Whether it be how they dress, how they look, or even how they raise their children. We have all done it. Primarily we judge others based on how their behavior or actions measure up to our moral compass. This is a part of life but I realized that even if the person has changed, often we don't allow the perception of how we think of them to change. We create this barrier in our minds that blocks out their growth. We refuse to believe that our pettiness is no longer warranted or excusable. I was guilty of all of these things. Why was I still holding on to stuff people did in college or even last year? How could I grow in God but not give them the grace that God so eagerly gives to us?
After the nagging feeling just wouldn't go away, I started to evaluate myself. I realized that whatever I was holding on to was holding me back from being greater. So I made a decision that I would allow others to grow in God. Who was I to refuse that? If someone reached out or apologized for their wrongs, I wouldn't secretly wish they didn't so I could be the “better person.” Also, I decided to not let the opinions of others prevent me from developing my own opinion of someone. Just like I grew, others can too.
As women in this crazy NFL life it is easy to just judge others or refuse to associate with someone based on who they used to be. As women we should challenge one another to grow in God not through criticism or judgment but through love. Growing in God is a blessing that is not limited to the few that qualify; it is open to everyone.
This one is for my mommas out here wrestling a tiny human with "Lord only knows" what in their mouth. This one is for my mommas practicing their spidey senses as they snatch the tail end of their toddler's shirt as they get ready to sprint away from the checkout line while you’re holding 86 other things in your hands.Girl, I am with you. Lets take a breath together.
Two can be a tough age! Your baby is transitioning out of baby stage and doesn’t quite have all the words they need to communicate which can lead to frustration for momma and baby. Then comes the curiosity, overwhelming curiosity about their surroundings and a new-found level of SPEED to go with that. They are starting to have a real voice, discovering likes and dislikes, and displaying clear-cut emotions about those things. When you lay it out, it sounds amazing! This is your baby we are talking about. A few short months ago, you couldn’t picture him/her doing all of this and now its here!
AAAAND it may very well be more than you bargained for. Because your toddler “discovering their voice” as they screech in the middle of Barnes and Noble because you broke off a piece of the granola bar instead of handing over the entire thing so they can choke… is not so fun. The days are long, hopefully the coffee is strong and we are all just busy- loving and learning this ever-changing little person. But sometimes it can be overwhelming. Sometimes there are just tough days and “what am I doing wrong?” creeps in to your head and it's easy to forget that this is just a phase. Especially when you’re alone or in a new city or if this is your first baby and you don’t have anyone around to relate. I’m here to be honest with you, relate to you and encourage you because it does get better!! There is an end here. Eventually, they grow out of this stage and you are not the only one arguing with your child over the way you sliced the grilled cheese.
Lately, I have been feeling like my sweet baby has been replaced by this speeding bullet of a child (I’m blaming the athletic roots, but my goodness he is fast! ) But then, just as the last drop of caffeine has left my system, as I tuck him into bed, I say goodnight and turn my back to walk out of the room I hear a sweet sleepy “Love you mommy” as he rolls over to sleep. That will bring you to your knees!! And just like that, it’s all worth it. Just like that, your heart is full.
If your toddler can’t yet remind you that they love you, I will. You are the backbone to this family. If you feel overwhelmed today, I want to remind you that they are still watching you so take a break and show them love and discipline out of necessity and not frustration. Finally, I want to remind you that you are not alone and there are so many of us just like you. So, lets slow down the picture perfect mom posts and embrace what’s really happening here. Your baby is growing up! Smile, momma and go hug that crazy kid of yours ;)
Hey Ladies! So preseason is over, YAY!! Have y’all adjusted yet? I know, for myself, having Tevin home this past month to help with the kids has been missed greatly. And yes, it is also hard for the guys to be away as much as they are during the day and not be able to communicate as often as we would like. As we gear up for the season this month, whether you have kids, or not, here are a few ways to help you transition into one of the busiest times of our year!
1) Find outlets outside of football/ "SAHM" life
For me, being a stay at home mom is seriously the biggest blessing I could ask for. With that being said, it’s hard work. By no means does it feel like a luxury. I knew that I needed other things to focus on rather than slowly lose my sanity in this crazy life of mine. I love being creative so what I did as my outlet was start my own business. This gives me the incentive I need to push myself as well as motivation to take personal time every now and then. A good friend of mine, Sara, wife of Washington Redskins Ziggy Hood, says her outlets are working out and cooking. They always say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach and I’m pretty sure she nailed that one!
2) Find a routine that works for you and stick to it
Whether it’s taking a morning jog or making sure that your children nap at a certain time so that you have a moment of peace-it is important to remember, “you can’t pour from an empty pot.” Being the best mom that you can be requires to be the best YOU that you can be. Having a nap time schedule and an early bed time is one the the best ways you can achieve time for yourself.
3) Take time for yourself and your friendships
I have met SO many amazing women through WAGS Redefined. The lifestyle that we live is a very unique one so it’s also harder than most people would understand. Who better to help you get through things like camp, preseason and season than those who are going through it as well? If you haven’t ventured out and followed people via social media than I suggest that you do so! Outside of #WAGSR, I encourage you to have a life outside of your home where you are able to be yourself.
4) Get dressed and ready for the day
I am SO guilty of not doing this. I get busy doing other things and before I know it it’s noon and I am still wearing the same clothes I wore yesterday. It’s tough but I know when I look good, I feel good. It’s easy to get stuck in a rut and let yourself get down. Sara (@embracingbeautybysara_) has a beauty blog that gives me life! She has two children and somehow still manages to get a workout in and have her makeup done almost every day.
5) Make sure that at the end of day, you talk to your man!
I’m aware of how stressful their days are and can be. But it’s also very important for the two of you to stay connected. Make time at the end of the day to vent to each other and relax. As a stay at home mom, it’s crucial to your sanity to have adult interactions and especially when your toddler's day was "ruined" because you gave him the red cup and not the blue cup.
So, whether you’re a full time mom, entrepreneur, going to school or working to find out what fits you- each role is important. As Sara said best when I asked her to give me a tip or two: “The key is to not be so caught up in our men that we lose ourselves and our mind in the process. That's why finding a hobby to lift our spirits, whether it’s through fitness or makeup, is so important (especially when you’re a mother). After all, Happy wife, Happy life- right?”
I have been so apprehensive about writing this post but I think it could be cathartic and maybe help someone else. I'm pregnant! Such a blessing but nerve-wrecking at the same time. You see, I already have a 15 month old daughter and she’s a handful. Do I have the energy for one more, the love for another, the patience for another? These were all questions racing through my mind shortly after the confirmed pregnancy.
It’s funny; Jeff and I knew we wanted another child. We discussed it, kinda planned for it, and BOOM prayers answered. He was surprised considering the timing yet still excited. He went about his day while my mind continued to plan 9 months down the road.
After those initial thoughts dissipated, I began to criticize myself. I had such negative thoughts regarding my post- pregnancy body (yes, I was still calling it that), my laughable eating habits as of late, and my nonexistent fitness routine since arriving in Houston. One day, I am making excuses for myself citing the move, the vacation, Joy’s ability to walk, then other days I was on social media comparing myself to the graceful pregnant women that were avoiding maternity clothes, running marathons, eating vegetables and balancing their already full plates. I was in such a destructive place when I was supposed to be celebrating the incredible journey I was about to go on again and enjoying every minute I had left with my only child, Joy.
I know they say comparison is the thief of joy, but there is so much more to it— It had caused me to want to hide my pregnancy in shame. I had no problem waiting till the second trimester to share the news on social media because I refused to be in pictures for the first twelve weeks. Hence the reason I’m just now typing this at 20 weeks! I would run into old friends or acquaintances and make a deplorable joke about my weight gain. I would say, “oh, you thought I just got really big, don’t worry— I'm pregnant!” I was so uncomfortable with my rapidly changing body that I was looking for ways to deflect.
My poor husband; he was so confused. He couldn’t tell if I was happy, upset, or sad. It was such a range of emotions that I just didn’t expect to experience this time around.
After I had Joy, my baby weight journey started with abounding optimism, followed by more reasonable goals, met with extenuating circumstances and exhaustion. Fast forward one year, here I am pregnant again hanging out with those 10 pregnancy pounds from before. I wrote this piece to let you know you're not alone. We aren’t all rubber bands that are going to bounce back immediately, if ever. Our family (now of 4!) was a priority and life is unpredictable. If we’re being honest, had I paid more attention to the clock I probably would have been more adamant about my workouts and diet. Hindsight is 50/50 right?
I have since come to terms with my bulging belly and am enjoying the tiny kick and wiggles of the Allen baby. I also made a decision to get some help! I am working with Leah Egwatu of fitfoodiele.com (@fitfoodiele) who specializes in pre/postnatal fitness. Our weekly sessions have done wonders for my mental health and wellbeing. I make better food choices and feel strong again. I would highly suggest committing to something during your second pregnancy that makes you feel strong. That might be walking every evening or doing yoga. It could also be continuing modified versions of your workout and fighting the strong urge to indulge in ice cream every night.
No two pregnancies are the same but if you find a way to take control of how you feel, you will reap nothing but the benefits. Find a new way to enjoy your pregnancy. The stronger I feel, the less concerned I am about that fact that I broke out the maternity pants way earlier or the shirts I saved from last time around are a little tighter than I remember. I don't obsess over weekly bump pictures though I still take them!
I hope this helps someone that might be frustrated with losing the last few pounds, anxious about having another one or currently pregnant and loathing their swollen feet and soft tummies. We are all fighting struggles not documented on social media. Find your strength and carry on! We are capable of so much more than comparison.